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Friday, October 2, 2009

I never noticed this until now...

Society believes its hard to raise a kid who is biracial because society is not open to them. We all know how pointless "other" and "2 or more races" is on forms (as biracial is vague and there are different mixes so its not the same).

Society makes no attempts to make it easy for biracials...yet raising a kid with 2 different races, is by far, more simple than raising a kid of 2 different cultures, or 2 different religions.

I never realized that before, but when raising a child of 2 different races, it is more simple for them if the parents are similar and share the same culture. Meaning, if both eat and like the same foods, dress the same (meaning both clean cut for example), if they listen to similar music, share the same beliefs, etc.

I am not saying its easy to raise biracial kids, because its not easy. But it may not necessarily be the hardest either.

Culture isn't always related to race. It usually is, but sometimes isn't. Look at black americans and then people from different tribes of Africa, you have completely different cultures there. Yet they are all the same race.

Raising a kid in 2 cultures can be complex. You have to give them the best of both worlds, and often, one has to choose (just like with race), in the end, we always lean more one way on something in life than the other, no matter how balanced we try to say. We all know how moderation is the key of life, but at the same time moderation is one of the most hardest things to maintain.

When it comes to religion, that may be even harder than culture. Because with religion you have so much conflict. How do you fairly give both religions to your kid? Its bad to say people should marry within their race only. Its bad to say people should marry within their culture only. Its bad to say people should marry within in their social status only. But is it bad to say people should marry within in their religion only?

If one can make it work, they should go for it, but they should really really think about how they are going to make it work.

How does an Atheist and Christian tolerate each other when it comes to religion? Naturally one will influence them more.

I do believe the kid should get the final decision in what they believe, but this can only be done by giving them the same equal amount of exposure...

I see the same problems coming up in marriages between different religions, that I see in marriages between people with different political beliefs.

In some cases, marrying out is okay and should not be looked down on...such as race and culture. But in the case of religion...that is questionable.

One should be with who they love, but they should think about the children. And I mean that for any kind of mixing, race, culture, religion, language, etc. One should talk about it and have an idea in mind...one needs to realize, in a mixing, that means you have to abide by rules slightly different from non-mixed marriages.

1 comments:

Biracial Christian Girl said...

you're right: different religions in a marriage don't mix. in fact in the Bible it mentions in the New testament not being unequally yoked with an unbeliever. The reason for this is because God knows what turmoil it can bring to a marriage and kids for the spouses to believe in different things. ( racist people always leave the end of that particular scripture off to prove interracial marriage is wrong. it irks me to no end!) This scripture also states in the same chapter that if you are a believer in Christ but happen to be married to an unbeliever, if that person is still pleased to stay with you: go head and stay together that the unbelieving spouse may be won over to Christ by the believing spouse.

And yes people should be sure they are strong enough to handle an interracial relationship and that is what they really want before they get married.