The slave rape scenario

Can I just say, how annoying it gets when people always mention this? No doubt it happened, but in my opinion it just doesn't explain blacks who are as light skinned as mixed people today.

Maybe it did 90 years ago or 100 years ago, but in today's time, so many generations have passed.

Lets face it, there is a history within your own family that either no one has told you, or that you are just trying to hide, and that history is the fact that there was some mixing in your family alot more recent than the slave master rapes slave theory.

You see the part many will also not tell you is how back in the day (if not still now), light skinned often paired with light skinned. We all know how old society was, they viewed light skinned better because of perceived advantages that could come with having light brown skin instead of dark.

I mean if you look at all known blacks before 1960, a good majority were light skinned, and I don't think that was a mistake...

So the slave rape may have made more light skinned kids...but at the same time light skinned people were pairing off with each other.

While you can still produce dark skinned kids, most will probably come out looking brown. Look at Lisa Bonet's and Lenny Kravitz's daughter they had when they were still married to each other....

So it kind of gets annoying hearing people refer to the slave rape to explain now...that is only the beginning of the story and is not the whole answer.

I got the safer end of the bullying from blacks in high school...

I was reading some things on issues that pertain to people who are light skinned, or have anglo features, or have "good" hair (I am still not sure what exactly constitutes as good hair as everyone says something different) or talk like white people (meaning that one does not talk ebonics) or acts white (meaning one that does not like gangsta/ghetto things such as rap).

In many of the articles, one of the scary but most prevalent things was how girls would get beaten up because other black girls felt that one black girl thought she was better than them (thus the fact that they'd have to beat her up shows how insecure they really are).

I was creeped out....I have mentioned a couple of times how I have a great disdain for people who act ghetto or gangsta.

I remember reading the book Mixed, and how Angela Nissel spoke of her drama with darker skinned blacks over that whole issue.

I thought about my own experiences with blacks.

The school i went to was about 60% white, 20% black and 20% any other race.

I have gotten in a fist fight with a black girl once...but it was over the fact that she was bullying me...her reasons for hating me, were never revealed...she was definitely one of those wannabes that shunned her black side...

We got away with our fight as everyone stopped us before the gym teacher showed up.

But that was the only physical confrontation I have ever had in high school. Yet, I was often bullied by blacks.

Growing up with a white mom, meant I had no one to do my hair...so they made fun of me for it.

But no matter how painful it was mentally to deal with the rude and harsh behavior of these black girls (majority of which acted ghetto), I realize now, that I was lucky. I guess my lack of associations with blacks in high school, also saved me from being more physcial confrontations.

Reading some of those stories, made me see how bad some have had it, for the most dumbest reasons. I often say that those who act ghetto/gangsta humilate our race and are keeping us further down...and I feel I am right in those assessments. Living in the hood doesnt make you ghetto or gangsta in my opinion, but certain behaviors and attitudes do.

I just couldn't believe how many would beat you up over perceived "snobbery". I am the silent time, and I just now realized why that black woman who did my hair 6 years ago, told me that being silent and ignoring mean people would make me seem like a snob. She was warning me. This woman also was the first to tell me about colorism (something I would not realize until about 6 or so months ago).

People do take a sign of silence as snobbery. I know i certainly did, when I would be around people who didn't speak. So naturally others would perceive my lack of speaking as snobbery...which may provoke those who are violent into beating you up...because they perceive you to be a snob, simply for not speaking.

Although the catch 22 is that, often speaking can make you come off as a snob for not saying the right things.

In the end one is backed into the corner for simply being different.

Its a scary revelation, knowing how one will be beaten for preconceived notions by people you barely know, if you even know at all.

Its tragic that one is stuck being stereotyped by both sides of their races. I hate being stereotyped by whites, and then being stereotyped by blacks...I can't help but feel as though mixed people get the worst of it all in the end....

The Princess and the Frog, my views.

As I stated previously, I am anxious for the movie to come out. But there have been criticisms from every which way about the movie.

such as:
1. The name of the movie
2. The name of Tiana
3. The interracial relationship
4. The New Orleans location.

there is much more, but these are the main ones you will hear over and over again.

Now obviously Disney does have a racist past (and present?)....so one should not be surprised about racial problems being prevalent in this movie. Especially if you research long enough you will find controversies with Mulan, Aladdin, and Pocahontas (and The Lion King also). In fact, if you look hard enough, you will find racial overtones, in older Disney moves of Walt's time.

So its important to go into this movie, expecting the unexpected, and expecting to see some racism or stereotypes.

Now I am going to address my opinion on each of the 4 things I mentioned.

1. The name of the movie. The working title for this was The Frog Princess, it would later be changed to The Princess and the Frog. I much prefer its title now, than the working title. Even though Tiana doesn't become a princess til the end of the movie (from what I am getting from the previews and descriptions), the vibe comes off more better than The Frog Princess.

2. The name change from Maddie to Tiana. I much prefer Tiana, not just because its more ethnic, but because when I think of the name Maddie, I think of Ashley Tisdale who played a Maddie in The Suite Life of Zach and Cody...thinking of Ashley makes me think of HSM, and I despise HSM. So I like the name change. Tiana would not have necessarily been my pick, and its not that I hate the name Maddie, but considering both HSM and this new movie are both under Disney, its just too much Maddie.

3. The interracial relationship. The Prince is either latin or indian. Its been confirmed by the voice actress for Tiana, that the princes is neither white or black. Some are upset not so much that its an interracial relationship, but that its not a black guy simply because those in the past got to stay in their race. Looking at this realistically, Disney probably had no other choice but to go out of race. A) a black movie doesn't sell. You can't have 2 black leads in a movie. You can have a predominate black cast, but there has to be another race as one of the leads, in order to get maximum ticket sales. B) It would be much harder to do a movie with a black princess, since Africa is really the only known continent with black princesses and princes...and an African culture and setting would not mesh well with the western world, including black americans. Sure Lion King was successful, but it had no people. I don't care so much that there is no black prince, I guess because I am not really attracted to black guys. And one person made a point in saying that black men would not object to not having a black princess, which is true.

But another problem some had with this relationship, was that Disney was trying to kill 2 birds with one stone. This isn't the first interracial relationship in a movie, but Disney has had very few Latin representation, the same as blacks. The Disney Channel has shown more Latin and Blacks in their shows (The Wizards of Waverly Place and That's So Raven), than Walt Disney Pictures itself. As of yet, there has been no actual Latin/Hispanic princess. Although if the prince turns out to be brazillian or some kind of hispanic/latin orgin, he will be the first princes. Although to most this does not matter, as very few times, has a princess movie ever really been about the Prince...in fact, up until The Little Mermaid, the prince usually had few lines and would only be in a few scenes. Disney is a female venture, especially the Princess movies.

4. The setting in New Orleans. This has created problems for various reasons. New Orleans is the location of many horrible racist acts of the past (even as recent as Hurricane Katrina), and also, there is the question of how blacks of New Orleans would be stereotyped...such examples being the Cajun accent. Quite frankly, I am not sure what to think right now....Disney probably chose New Orleans for its culture and its black population (I am not sure how big its population was in the 1900s since this movie supposedly takes place in the 1920s). Remember this is the 1920s, in order to make it work and not drift too far from reality, they had to be concisous about location....

In the end, some people say its not possible or realistic for there to be a black princess....but anyone who truly knows disney, would truly know that Disney obviously isn't one to stick with reality (seriously, does a the Little Mermaid ring a bell????).

The one thing that I had a problem with myself, was seeing her in a blue dress. I have seen her in a pic with a blue dress, and then a pic with a green dress. I sincerely hope her signature dress is the green dress. Its a beautiful dress and the blue dress, while looking nice, its too reminescent of Cinderella. I think each Princess should have her own distinct dress, in its own color too.Here is the link to one of the three trailers

I think I finally in a sense came to terms with Disney.

I just "fanned" The Princess and the Frog on Facebook. I am anticipating Disney's very first black Princess...

I hope this movie is successful, its a Princess movie (she becomes a princess through marriage), its in 2D animation, and she is black!

Some say, why did they do her last? I say, who cares, as long as they have finally done it. Its been 10 years since Mulan (I never really liked Mulan).

I have always loved Disney movies...but was upset when I realized Walt was a racist...but I realized something as I was watching videos about The Princess and the Frog...I realized, my love for the movies are greater than the love of the person behind them. Why give up what I enjoy because of one horrible man? The same with Henry Ford, James Stewart, and etc?

I am trying to become a history teacher...so its my job to stay objective, and to look past the horrid racial beliefs some of these people had. I look at these people in a realistic way. They did some good, but they themselves were not good people.

But I think I finally came to terms with Disney...I really really really can't wait to see this movie.

I love Pixar movies, but I soooo miss 2D Princess movies....from what I hear Disney will be coming out with a CG animated princess movie next year...I do not like that at all. Princess movies need to stay in 2D, thats the tradition.

But I am looking forward to Toy Story 3, not sure what year its slated to come out (I think its either 2010 or 2011).

Only dumb people can't figure out the "historically" in Historically Black Colleges and Universities.

I am always seeing and hearing people whine about "if blacks can have their own college why not whites?". Those with common sense know that almost every college in America is not only predominately white but historically white. But you don't have to say that, as they are the standard.

The problem is many whites fail to realize white is the standard...that is why you don't hear about "White history month", because why would you need to address the standard? Only morons fail to see the standard.

Historically black does not imply it is strictly for blacks. Those who actually know their history know that a little over 40 years ago, it was illegal for blacks to attend regular universities. Since the Civil War, there were black colleges made for blacks...such as Fisk, Morehouse, Howard, Spelman.

They have never denied their entrance of any race into these schools. The point of calling these schools (some of which have predominate white majorities nowadays), HBCU is to make aware of its history and prestige. Predominately black and Historically black are two different things.

A few years ago, a white guy became the first white valedictorian at a HBCU, and yet many uneducated (or simply whiny whites) complain about HBCUs and act as if they are black only...

I have begun to notice those who use the HBCU argument are nothing more than racists looking for something to bitch about because complaining completes their life as they have nothing better to do. These types obviously go out of their way looking for a problem that doesn't exist...they want their white privelage to be more powerful than it already is...they prefer to keep minorities in their place...and hate the idea of minorities having anything equal to them...otherwise, why bitch about historically black colleges?

I mean, you have to be a moron not to know what the heck "historically" means. That or just another racist, which pretty much makes you a moron anyways.

On another note related to HBCU, some ask if their purpose is no longer needed...and I say yes, not just because racism is still alive and well but because some of these schools still run efficiently and provide quality education. Why shut down perfectly good schools just because blacks can attend non-HBCUs???

The thing is, people assume they have no purpose to exist anymore because of their history...because they came into existence for an entirely different reason than the white schools.

I think some people assume that a college can't function properly or be diverse if its got a majority black student body.

I haven't been to a HBCU, I know there are some in my state, and I think they still have good reason to be around. HBCUs are better than just your run of the mill predominately black college...because usually a college that is predominate became that way due to white flight but with HBCUs, they have a more rich and strong prestigous legacy....

In the end their purpose is no different than most schools in America, the only difference is that they are not the standard and because of that it makes them a target.

Is it light vs dark, or is it more of a physical features problem?

I have done a couple of posts about "light skin vs dark skin"...often when you hear people talk of those who have it better in as a black person, you will hear people say the Halle Berry type...which is lighter skinned, and more anglo features. You almost never hear just "lighter skinned blacks have it better". Anglo..aka European features (small long nose, and thin small lips, and straight hair that is tame and manageable), is always paired with lighter skin.

So one can't help but ask...do the only people who actually have it easier are the ones that have European features? Is being light skinned merely just a bonus?

I am biracial (which makes me a light skinned black), and my features are definately a give away that I am black. My features kinda sit in the middle but I definitely took after my black side physically the most. About the only visible white feature on me is my freckles.

So maybe its not so much a "light vs dark" issue but more of a physical features issue. It seems that people are under the assumption that the lighter your skin is the more European all your features will be.

The reason America isn't as multicultural as it could be.

Many supremacists say a "multicultural and multi-ethnic society is not possible". They use race relations then and now as their excuse.

But my view is that, it is in fact possible, the only reason its not happening is because America won't move past its history and correct the current social errors.

In otherwords, America's race classification hinders a multicultural society. Accepting and correcting all wrongs of the past, hinder America.

Maybe America should be like other countries and get rid of the mentality where one bases another on the skintone.

Maybe America should stop trying to say they are "Irish, Italian, German, European in general, Asian, African, Ghanian, etc" unless they or their parents were actually born there. Lets face it, with each generation that passes, you become less of that culture and more apart of the American culture.

America can have multiple races...but it needs to realize that it has its own culture separate from other countries.

It needs to start seeing people for their actual race, and not assumptions. The wrongs made by the whites to every minority group need to be corrected.

Its not that a multicultural or a multi-ethnic society is impossible...its just most don't want to take the necessary steps to get towards that kind of society. Everyone holds on to the crutch, holds on to the rules of the past like a lifesaver. America refuses to change...its too ignorant and set in its ways.

Why Black and White can be said but Red and Yellow can't.

I was reading about how a few whites want to be called "European American" because they think its stupid that blacks can be called "African American". Someone argued that "African American" came into style as a way to "up" the community because of past words like the n word, negro, colored, etc.

I was thinking how "black" is still widely used. I still refer to people as black, and only say "African American" usually on more formal writings such as school work...

I guess I don't socially say "African American" much because its quicker to say black.

But another person made a good mentioning of something that I never thought about. They mentioned how with Native Americans and Asian Americans, you have to refer them that way (unless you know their tribe or country)...because you can't say "yellow" or "red"

You can say white because it never had a horrible meaning stamped on. You can say black because it too never had a horrible meaning stamped on, in fact black was the better and improved version of colored and negro, which were the preferred terms over "nigger".

But "yellow" and "red" are like the equivalence to Asians and Indians, that "darkie" is to blacks.

Those terms have never been used in a positive way...not from their very existence. That is why black and white is the only colors you hear applied to a race in America.

And the reason "African American" came along is because of the horrid history blacks were put through in America, and black people asserting their right as Americans too.

Another Blog

I decided to make another blog besides the two I already have here. After thinking about it between the time I did the post on what I'd post here, and today, I realized, that I will keep this strictly about being biracial, and race in general. I made a new blog called "Me vs. the World" which will be my "post anything and everything" kind of blog.

Not necessarily always about being biracial.

I noticed that I am making more blog posts that don't necessarily have anything to do with being biracial. I guess because I don't want to be to repetitious. Also, some things I find interesting and would like to share with whomever reads it.

I used to ask myself why Tiffany on her blog version of Mulatto Diaries didn't always talk about being biracial like she did with her videos. Now I understand why...if you wanted to be strictly one thing, then you will run out of topics. This blog is still primarily about race and being biracial...but won't be limited to those things.

I love this song now....

Last night i was spending a few hours watching past In Memoriums from BAFTA and Academy Awards, and also watching all the TCM Remembers. It was said, but the TCM Remembers were so better than the In Memoriums, because they had beautiful music, movie clips and a beautiful backdrop/setting/theme for the whole video.

This song I Will Remember You by Sarah McLachlan was used in the first TCM Remembers, which came out in 2003...I have always hated this song.

But yesterday I ended up liking it because it made the video so powerful. I then realized this song evokes certain emotions in me, and its a really good song.

So now I like it. In fact, I am discovering that I am liking more and more songs from the past that I used to despise...I guess its cause I am older, and music today sucks compared to yesterday.

here is the 2003 TCM Remembers, now they don't have all the people who died that year because there is a cut off date of the video.



here is another one that has a good song...this one is TCM Remembers 2008, the song in here is God Only Knows.

My View on Christianity.

My response to Biracial Christian Girl, on the question of my views on Christianity.

Right now its hard to say. I have turned away from God on multiple occasions. I was one of those kids who brought toys to church...my mom slept in church. We only went cause my aunt forced us. Then she married and left to move in with her husband in Oregon, and my mom stopped forcing us to go to church. My sister got the most out of it when it came to church.

My family is conservative and Pentecostal. I do not like the conservative Pentecostal ideals. I am not fully liberal, i am a moderate to liberal on many things, it just depends on what I am feeling in the moment.

I get annoyed by atheists and Christians. The Christians that annoy me are usually the hypocritical ones who sit on their high horse, and go around acting like their way is the only way.

And atheists irk me because they are hypocritical too. They do the very things they claim they hate Christians doing, yet the only difference between the two actions are the messages and beliefs behind it.

I just recently purchased a Bible in NCV format. I do not like the KJV because I can't understand it. The Bible I bought is also in pink and is full of fun facts and other things, it is designed in a way that makes me want to read the Bible.

I do not believe in organized religion. Although sometimes I go to a small Bible study group, I prefer to find my relationship with God privately. I found going to church only made me get further away. I just feel right now, I got to find where I am at, and I feel it would be easier for me personally to do it on my own terms and alone, or with minimal people involved. Also, I do not like how each denomination says the other denomination is wrong, and I don't know where I would even belong, I know I am not Pentecostal. I would probably be non-denominational, if I were to label.

I also believe religion should be a personal thing and should not be forced on anyone especially not through gov't. My belief on that is because, one day Christianity may not always be the mainstream or majority religion, and I believe in the philosophy of the wheel is always turning. In otherwords, I do not like the idea of Christians exerting their power on other people with different faiths, because you never know when the wheel will turn against your favor and they decide to see an eye for an eye.

I do not label myself as neither agnostic or born again Christian....

-----side note-----
I also do not like how people use the Bible for arguments. The Bible is there as a guide for the individual. To use it to justify anything is wrong because, anyone can find a verse that supports their argument on anything...people used it to justify slavery, to keep interracial marriage illegal, and to use it to make it legal and etc.

I also don't think its wrong if someone isn't loud and proud about their beliefs or anything. How loud you say it means nothing in the end...my aunt is loud and proud but she is a 2 hour christian (meaning she is not very christianly, she can be very hateful). Just because you want the world to know what you believe, doesn't mean you have necessarily processed what it is you believe and why...so, there is nothing wrong if someone shies away from telling the world.

I never noticed this before until now but...

I always noticed how white people will say a biracial person is biracial, ONLY when they do good, yet they are black any other time. Heck, they are still seen as black, even when they claim the biracial person to be "biracial. But there was something else that I just noticed, this time its done at the hands of black people.

I was looking up Hugh Jackman, and how he had adopted a biracial boy from America. Alot of black people commented on it. It wasn't the usual "white people shouldn't adopt black" comments. Although I will get back to that in a minute.

Some of the things black people had to say in the comments was "Why did he have to go and adopt a biracial kid? was a black not good enough?" and many variations of it. It sounded just like the comment a black girl made once, when she said that "when a white guy dates as biracial girl, its because he doesn't have enough soul and is too scared to go with a REAL black woman".

It made me think back to Obama, and many other biracials who have had major achievements, such as Halle Berry, Alicia Keys, etc. Black people have no qualms about calling them black, and taking credit for their achievements (I noticed whites and blacks love to measure achievements by the race you are born in).

But all of a sudden, in something such as adoptions, they see black and biracial differently. This is where the celebrity adopting black comes back in.

A commenter mentioned, in retaliation to the hater comments, that blacks had an outcry against Madonna and Angelina Jolie for adopting black, yet now they are giving Hugh hell for adopting biracial INSTEAD of black....

Although it seemed like there was an agreeable consensus though on the fact that everyone was more angry about adoptions of blacks by Americans happening outside of America, rather than inside of America (which I totally agree with, I think its silly to adopt outside the country, when those inside the country need homes too, you can't fix other countries' problems, when your country needs to fix itself first).

Yet, I never really noticed this though, but biracial people seem to be a "throw around" for both whites and blacks...they can be their greatest ally, and their greatest enemy...we seem to spark arguments and controversy within each race. Blacks seem to be all for the ODR, until an actual black suffers while the biracial person benefits, then all of a sudden, they hate biracials and want to differientate between the two...it seems like whites and blacks see biracials as something that should be "seen but not heard".

Biracial babies are less wanted for adoption than black?

I was reading a few articles about black and biracial babies being adopted. Many stated that biracials were the least wanted, even less wanted than black babies. Tiffany of Mulatto Diaries even makes mention of this, herself, about the lack of adoptions for biracial babies.

I was surprised...maybe it was the logic in me, but it seemed as though, at least in my eyes, people would want a biracial baby more than a black, because some people have become conditioned to think when they see a white mom (or dad) and then a brown skinned child, they assume its theirs because of interracial relationship at one point in the past. Most would not assume adoption at all, because it may not be obvious to the stranger.

And isn't that the point of adopting, especially within your own race? The last thing you want is to make it clear from the get go that they are not biologically yours....

White people raising biracial or black is going to be hard naturally. But i guess the reason I thought biracials were adopted more was because, its more common to see biological biracial kids with a white parent...It just seems easier to adopt someone half white, than to adopt an actual black kid, if you are white.

I recently read an article that talked about how people from other countries come to America, to adopt black kids and biracial kids, because no one wants them in America. Its weird...Americans think they are saving Asian kids and even African kids (you know celebrity adoptions), from a terrible fate, and in a sense exerting their "America is superior" attitude while doing it, yet people from other countries put reality back into perspective. What does it say for a country, when you adopt from other countries, but other countries have to adopt the unwanted children of your own country?

It makes me think about the abortion debate...sometimes one can't help but ask if minority children are better off being aborted...cause they may have it bad raised in a home that doesn't want them...and then there is the possibility of spending your whole life in a foster home, and who knows how that person will come out afterwords...

I won't get into my opinions of the debate or talk about abortion any further, I am simply stating that it does make one understand more why some opt for abortion....

Apparently the US wants to make it harder for foreigners to be able to adopt black kids...which I feel is wrong, because Americans sure aren't adopting them. They prefer other "saving" other countries over their own....I think America is just too embarrassed about having to be saved by other countries, because many Americans feel they should be the Saviors of the World.

In the end though, it does seem kind of backwards to me that biracials are less wanted than black. Although another article stated that light skinned is preffered over dark skinned. So it seems like there are two different articles contradicting one another...I guess all we can say is, if you have any visible blackness in you, then you will more than likely not get adopted.

Does history always repeat itself?

History always repeats itself...no question about it...its just a question of WHEN.

Someone mentioned how America is coming closer to becoming the country with the next Holocaust. Some try to compare Obama to Hitler...but he is nowhere close. Its the conservatives, its the Glenn Becks and the Rush Limbaughs of the world one should be fearing.

If you look at 1930s and 1940s Germany, propaganda swept people into hating Jewish and anything that wasn't Aryan.

The world was suffering economically, and the powers of Germany was able to feed on the fears of everyone.

In America, it was irrational fears that helped catapult the country into an even further economic turmoil, when everyone rushed to the banks to withdraw their money.

When Birth of a Nation came out in 1915, it revived the Klan, because it fed on peoples fears.

All these examples show how fear causes one to become more irrational. Many say that another holocaust is impossible. Is it because the Civil War was the only major war America had on its soil, that they believe America could never be the next Germany? Is it because people believe we have improved socially?

All it takes is propaganda, and using the right words to put fear into people. You then take advantage of that fear and convince people to join your side. It is from there, things like the Holocaust can happen.

Russia is on the verge of a Holocaust. Ironic considering they fought against them in WWII...and now the amount of Neo Nazis there are ever growing. You know disaster is only a few miles away when something that goes by a name (or similar name) such as National Party gets voted into some form of political power. It recently happened in the UK, the BNP now have a seat in Parliament.

Many people want to shrug off these hate groups and assume they are all just a bunch of delusional people. When Obama got elected, Stormfront had a major increase in its membership. The problem is, we assume we have progressed enough that we have no threat from these groups.

And that is our fatal flaw. We assume they will be no harm. So no action is taken. Because of inaction, their numbers grow, and its only a matter of time before America is the next Germany.

No matter how much a country can progress socially in its beliefs, a country can always revert, and often times does, to its former self, out of fear. We shouldn't be afraid of what damage Obama can do. Be afraid of what people like Limbaugh, Beck, and Coulter can do to America since they have more ability to spread propaganda and to feed on the fears of the American people.

The next holocaust will be worse, chances are it will be more worldwide. Its not a question of if another one can happen, but a question of when.

History always repeats itself. People say that we should just learn the mistakes of those from the past. But some mistakes can't be learned. Sometimes its not a matter of learning what they did wrong and not repeating it, its a matter of everything in the situation converging with eachother and creating a mess. Different factors, but same results. Lets face it, humanity is cocky, we blame everything on our human nature, and prefer not to tame it.

Is happiness always at the expense of others?

Happiness is something we all want. But sometimes I wonder, is the only way people can be happy in life, is at the expense of others? Since America's founding, white people led more comfy lifestyles and had a happier experience compared to minorities, at the expense of Natives and Blacks. Even today, whites enjoy white privilege simply for being their skin color, at the expense of minorities, especially blacks. Naturally most don't want to give that up, so most tend to be very condoning of racism and tend to turn a blind eye because of it.

I start to think about each individual person's happiness. Surely enough we are a society that believes in material possessions. And if it takes a material object to make one happy, wouldn't one be doing that at the expense of all those who make them in third world countries, underpaid?

It seems like, regardless of what makes us happy, as much as one person is happy, another is sad over the same thing. Is it only possible for their to be happiness at the expense of others?

Are those that have to live unhappy and miserable existences, to thank for your happiness in the end, are they the underdog hero, not only given a bad rep, but treated unfairly considering the situation?

The irony of colorism.

I have talked about colorism before, mostly referring to blacks, but this one is more of a general post.

Colorism is racism within a racial group. So instead of it being two different racial groups against each other, its people with the SAME race, who dislike each other for the skin color (light or dark).

Colorism can be found in almost every race. India is notorious for it, and to a lesser extent, the African American community. And to an even smaller extent, it can sometimes be found in the white community (this is where the whole pasty white vs tanned comes in).

The irony of colorism is that it divides people within their race, when the reality is, people of other races do not see nor classify anyone of that race with colorism.

Meaning, to white people, black is black, no matter the shade or mixing in each person, a black person is still black.

Its easy to shrug off colorism, especially when you are on the "better" end, and its even easier when you do not usually have to deal with it. Or when you are in an environment where you deal with more racism than colorism.

Colorism tactics are nothing more than a way to keep a united front from being made. Lets face it, if a group is too busy in fighting, than the enemy could swoop on in and annihilate them much easier.

While it is true that some go with the flow when it comes to colorism because they were taught and raised to see it that way, its obvious "divide and conquer" still exists, because this is a problem that many know a little something about, that could easily be addressed...but isn't. One could easily start getting on the path to fixing it, but no one seems to really want to. Its obvious that many in society buy into it in some form or fashion, otherwise, someone would be finding a solution for it.

But colorism is always going to be ironic and a conundrum. It is amazing how many of us see racism going on...and want to stop it. But we all stand idly by with colorism, and don't seem to realize how colorism actually makes dealing with racism harder.

The In Between?

Some mulattoes, not all, have the ability to see neutral on how both races can be. When a mulatto has criticisms about blacks and whites, they cannot be labeled racist for they are both, and they are the in between and have the ability to see the in between.

While some mulattoes lean greatly towards one side, sometimes to the point of showing hatred towards one, other mulattoes can tell you what whites need to work on and what blacks need to work on.

Mulattoes don't like to do what white people do, and derail a conversation and make it about black people. Mulattoes don't like to do what black people do and hide the dirty laundry and pretend it doesn't exist.

Mulattoes can sometimes be the moderates of race relations. When you are raised by a parent with a very different skin color, even more than before are you able to see things slightly different than others.....

While mulattoes can't bridge the gap between races, they can at least point out the problems each race has that need working.

Mulatto the new threat to blacks?

I was surfing the web, and came across a racist white supremacist website called VDare. In an article they talked about some new "Mulatto Elite"...curious, i surfed more about the whole subject in the content of that post. And found a known racist, Steve Sailer, who has a blog at Blogger, he pretty much talked about some new "mulatto elite" too. In the comments, there was a comment that stood out to me.

The comment contained a diatribe of how mulattoes benefit more than blacks from AA, that as long as they have the choice to say they are black, they can have the benefits. The commenter then said that mulattoes want nothing to do with "black trash" and simply want the benefits of being part black, but also separating themselves from it. Someone followed up that comment by saying how mulattoes are a greater threat to blacks than white people.

The white user said that mulattoes would not be as kind.

It made me think for a little bit. To some people, they hate mulattoes more than blacks, because mulattoes are the product of "race traitors". To others, mulattoes are not as bad, because their being half white "saves them".

But the concept that mulattoes do take advantage of their black side is true. Many of us do take advantage of the benefits that come with being half black, such as AA (which really one does not choose if they will use in the first place, its the boss that chooses), college scholarships, and other things.

Mulattoes have helped carry the black race, for hundreds of years. With people as long ago as Booker T Washington and Frederick Douglass, and as recent as celebrities and politicians.

In another post, I stated, that one dropping benefits the black race, it makes the race look bigger than it may be, while also, increasing the amount of achievements made.

But one must ask, will one dropping at some point make things worse for blacks?

Some one drop mulattoes to "keep them in their place", mainly because who wants yet another racial group possibly being treated better than their own group?

But mulatto fight is starting to pick up, it may be in its beginning stage, but for how long? Mulattoes are fighting to end ODR, to get their own race, and to reverse hundreds of years of ODR and preconcieved notions. Naturally it will take a long time, since blacks are still fighting for their rights.

But is this supremacist commenter somewhat correct?

Will biracial people be worse than whites? They say if latin/hispanic people take over America, they will be much more heartless and violent towards blacks than any white person ever was. I can somewhat imagine that, given what goes on in California, and other places.

But many blacks often accuse biracials of hating their black side. Of all the biracials I knew in high school, only few associated mostly with blacks. Only one or two associated with an even amount of both blacks and whites (in seperate groups usually), and the rest (including me) associated mostly with whites.

Do blacks mispercieve being raised by your white side of the family as hating your black side? No doubt, some biracials (even myself), have been deprived of some things because of our lack of having a black side in our life...

I hate the fact that my father proves the stereotype about black men to be true, and it can be hard trying to defend the black race and say "there are good black men out there" (I haven't dated a black guy yet, but naturally there are good black men out there), knowing full well my dad was apart of the still growing trend of men leaving pregnant women. I almost want to stop defending and just say that whether or not its a majority problem of men in the black race doing it, it still needs to be addressed.

Is being more tough about how the black race should be, since I am biracial, make blacks angry? Yes it does, they often feel they must "remind" me that I am black, and I know I am, but that does not address the problem.

Some biracials intentionally want nothing to do with blacks, some do not necessarily relate well with many blacks. And some are rejected by blacks because they hold tough criticisms about the black race.

Maybe mulattoes are considered the "new threat" to blacks because, mulattoes hold lots of achievements in the black race, and if they become their own race, where does that leave blacks? Maybe mulattoes will be more tough towards the black race, because they are black, but also their white side propels them to see the black race slightly different than born black people.

Maybe they are just a threat to the current standard of living amongst black people. Meaning, they are threating the current way of life...and the current way of life amongst blacks (and even mulattoes) is grim and bleek, so is it really such a bad thing?

Of course, then there is the theory that the mulattoes that could be a threat most to blacks are the ones that resent being half black because they are punished for the actions of bad blacks. And if mulattoes ever get a higher standard in society and the ODR abolished, this could potentionally make things harder and worse for blacks...for resentful mulattoes may come back with a vengenance...but once again, is it necessarily the race they hate, or the stigmas?

In the end, mulattoes could become the new threat to blacks, although I think it is highly unlikely that will happen.

Whats the best way to embrace being biracial?

In a society where your title and your race are considered two different things, where people only care for your race, and not your title, you are often left feeling confused or lost about what to do.

At some point, some biracial people finally get to a point in their life where they want to embrace their title. But the question remains, how?

Some people do blogs, vlogs, start clubs, forums, etc, to unite people alike. For them embracing who they are is by bringing people like them, together.

For others, they prefer to get much more personal than just a blog or vlog or forum. For some they write stories, do poetry. It could be about the life of a biracial person, with a biracial lead. It could be their life story, from the trials to tribulations.

How does one express and embrace being biracial? There is no one way. Some just are, others want to show it and let the world know.

Most say, if you are unwilling to shout something out to the world, then you are ashamed. But I don't think its true. Sometimes, going out of your way to let others know, makes you look like you are unsure, and that you are convincing yourself. To me, one doesn't have to be loud and proud....one just has to know for themselves, and thats what is important.

Some people treat the whole biracial issue the same way they treat Christianity. They must spread the word, and anyone with a slightly different concept of it, is a horrible person that should be banished. I hear too much of Christians of one denomination "damning" those of another denomination to Hell. And biracials do the same, such as how Obama was treated for self identification.

There are so many ways to embrace being biracial, but one should make sure its their own thing, and not forced and that they don't force it on others.

One can start out trying to embrace being biracial through poetry, and they may end up finding themselves embracing being biracial, simply by just being themselves. There is no one way or best way to do it in the end.

Colorblind Societies do more damage.

This whole colorblind phenomenon thats going on is what I consider people condoning racism. Essentially when someone says "I have black friends" or "I don't see race", they are applauded and are allowed to say whatever they want about another race because of it...and then you hear everyone say we are all equal...and the reality is, we are not. If we were all equal, racism would be gone. The playing field is never going to be level.

If you are a minority, its especially dangerous to believe the whole colorblind nonsense, since, you get the brunt of most racism. People use the whole "colorblind" thing, to avoid racism, its just as bad as race talk derailers.

When you look at interracial relationships, many will try to be "colorblind" about it. The same way with their kids. My belief is that just causes more trouble, especially if one parent is not in their life. Lets face it, they are different from most kids. The interracial relationship IS different, because 2 different races that hate each other are together, and will not get a good reception for it. It takes alot of work to make interracial relationships work. When you go into them, you go in because you really want it to work...why waste time for a fling?

When raising the kids, biracial kids need more attention, you not only raise them like the rest of the kids out there, but you have to do a little bit more. A biracial kid is biracial, not mono-racial...you have to help them navigate a world, where their skin is different from the parent (and/or family). You have to make sure to give them a little bit from each side of their family. To well round them. You have to be more realistic about how society will be towards them.

I think the problem with the whole "colorblind" approach in society is that it causes people to look at the world the way they want it to be, rather than what it is.

In the end, the problems only get worse, because people won't wake up and address them. When black people want to shove the ills of the black race under the rug, I can understand why, but at the same time, I feel, we must fix those problems in order to better our race. Lets face it, since Civil Rights, the black race went down hill. People finally got some rights, and instead of using that to their advantage, and do what the Jews and Natives, and Asians did, they just demanded more rights instead....blacks will never be looked at as individuals or anything, but if the black race could be better, like the Natives and Asians, then we would not have to be reliant on whites, and can leave white people to their racism.

The problem with white people is that they often justify subtle racism. Racism is socially acceptable, if its not blatant (and in some cases even blatant racism is okay). A colorblind society doesn't affect white people as much. They are the standard, everything is catered to them. But if you are a minority, the colorblind look at society, could hurt you, because its unnrealistic, and just covers the truth.

In the end, people should just accept the problems going on, and rather than hide them, fix them.

How can I forget??

LOL...whenever people talk about biracials, and how mostly black men go for white women, and rarely white men go for black men...i always agree.

Even though I like white men, its extremely extremely, utterly beyond belief, extremely rare to see WM/BW (that includes mulatto females too) relationships, which isn't too surprising since my city has major racial and segregation issues.

But I pretty much always agree with people on the whole "there are more biracial kids from white women, and black men". I would usually say, I see many at the store(s) and people I knew in school.

And its weird...because I always seem to forget that I am one of those results of those statistics. I always forget that my mom is white, and my dad is black.

Is it normal to forget yourself or to include yourself or to realize you are a result of those statistics? Maybe it has to do with the fact that my dad was never in my life....

A Note.

If you have read my blog, or have checked out other blogs, then hopefully you have figured out that my blog along with many others, especially on the mulatto topic, are just opinions, formulated on our own experiences.

So I guess what I am saying is...I merely put whats going on in my mind at the moment into blog format...sometimes I will contradict myself.

I am 20...so I am still figuring out what I want and how to get it.

Also just a note...I pretty much refrain from arguing on my blog...if a comment upsets me or annoys me, or whatever, I will just delete it. A comment could stay in moderation for an unlimited time, whether its because I haven't been on for a while or whether its because I am not sure if I want to allow it....

I am picky about the comments I allow.

Is saying one is "biracial", trying to denounce being black?

I got a comment (that I have yet to decide what I want to do with), on one of my posts. Essentially, I upset the commenter, because I stated that black people are not biracial.

She then brought up the topic, and directed me to someone's post about it. She pretty much stated that we are denouncing our blackness, because of the stigmas that come with being black in America (if not the world).

I have read many comments on Youtube videos, on other peoples blogs, by black people, who feel that by saying you are biracial, you are therefore denouncing your black side.

Is this true? for some, it really is true. There are negative stigmas that come with being black, people don't hate the race, they hate the rules...so when some see their chance out (such as being light enough to pass), they take it. Others though, claim themselves as black even if they are biracial, for their own personal reasons. And some do not see themselves as black at all, and prefer to embrace both sides.

The commenter pretty much was saying that blacks are mixed. We all know about the rapes in slavery...but the thing I keep saying is that there is a difference between directly mixed and indirectly mixed. Are there blacks who are lighter than me, who are not directly mixed? yes.

Naturally, one will see someone who claims themselves as biracial instead of black, as someone who hates blacks, when they have a skewered perception as to what is black and what is biracial.

Many biracials in history and even today, have been right along side many blacks fighting battles for equality.

Its not that biracials hate being black, its just that some want to be seen as what they are accurately (aka Politically correct) way.

When you are like me, and you are raised ONLY by your white mom, and her side of the family, you do not get much black influence in your life. I was raised in white culture, and my family have some racist views about blacks (most of it being generalizations they had about all blacks), and it left an impression on me...it made me hate black people too. Eventually I grew out of that. Do I like black people who like the gangsta/ghetto image? No I do not. But that does not mean I hate the black race. I sometimes consider myself black, depending on the situation and/or mood.

But sometimes I also consider myself biracial.

Biracial, is someone who is of 2 races. Multiracial, is someone of 2 or more races. When people talk about biracial people, no one is referring to some slave and slave master from hundreds of years ago.

When I say I am biracial, I am not denouncing my black side. Many (if not most), biracials are raised by their white side, therefore we are often not seen as "black enough"...yet we are chided for saying we are biracial. Most blacks have not, at least to my face, given me problems over it. They would ask if I were biracial, just like the other biracial kids, and I would reply yes, and they would shake their heads, as if that explained everything.

Maybe many of us biracials do not feel black in some ways. I feel like I can relate to blacks when it comes to racial matters, but other than that, I feel as though I cannot relate to blacks. I crush on white guys and asian guys and other mixed guys, more than I do black guys. I was raised only by the white side of my family, so its kind of hard at times to remember you are black too.

Society is changing...we went from where blatant racism was socially acceptable, to where closeted racism is only socially acceptable, there is still more to go before American society truly does begin to live up to its word.

While some biracials denounce their black side and hate their black side...some do not, they just simply also want people to see their white side...their whiteness may not appear physically (or mentally or culturally), but it may appear in their parent or family, and when you want people to know things about you, you want them to know the right things.

I often let people make their own assumptions about me and my race. Sometimes I will off-handedly mention I am biracial. Sometimes I will correct someone when they say something about my race...and sometimes I won't. Me being biracial, does not mean I will be seen any different from black people. Biracial people are hated just as much, if not more, by racists and supremacists.

REPRESENTATION

Okay this post is not so much about biracial, this has to do with Kanye West.

I did not, and do not plan to watch the VMAs. I do not like Kanye West, nor do I like Taylor Swift. I hate rap, and I hate country (even if she does a little bit of pop, I do not like her brand of country pop the way I like Leann Rimes').

I heard about the incident through Facebook...and amazingly it did not take long for white people to start blaming his race for how he acted. One of my Facebook friends mentioned how white people on a few posts were saying all sorts of things about the black race because of what Kanye did. He also mentioned how a few blacks would chime in saying that there was a difference between being black and being a "nigger" (think Chris Rock's sketch).

If its one thing that annoys me, its how because you are black, you are not seen as an individual in society. If 10 blacks do good, all it takes is 1 to unravel it. We are not given the same opportunity like whites are.

Do I really care about what Kanye did? No, i don't care. I don't care for the incident, for all we know it could have been staged.

It is irritating having to hear people constantly talk about it all fucking day long, repeating over and over the same opinion they stated a moment before. Some people getting Michael Jackson into the conversation. Its weird, Patrick Swayze just died, and people care more about what happened at the VMAs!!

But its not the incident that I am upset by...its the fact that the entire black race is being blamed for the actions of Kanye West. Race has nothing to do with this situation at all.

Sometimes I feel like I have to act a certain way, because I am "representing" my race. What I mean is, when you are of color, all it takes is doing one bad thing, and you will ruin their perception of people of your race forever...there is no such thing as individuality when you are black.

Kanye was a one man show. Apparently Beyonce turned on him later that show, yet that seems to ignored...

People wonder why I hate society, well, there is part of the reason right there.

A Revolving Feeling.

America's racial system is far different from others (such as Brazil and South Africa). America has what I call, a "simplified" way of looking at race. It is not a fair or nice system, it is just a simplified way of looking at race.

In other words, the system looks at you based on the outer appearance, and that is how you will be treated.

So, being biracial, sometimes I feel like a black person. I am seen as black in society, and have dealt with racism just like many other blacks. But sometimes I feel like I hit a rough patch. Culturally I feel like I relate more with my white side, yet racially I relate better with my black side. Which I am sure I am not the only one out there like that...but sometimes, whenever black people talk about the going ons of the black race, sometimes I feel like I am not included.

Its hard to know when you are considered part of the problem in the conversations whites and blacks have about race. Some have outwardly said they hate mixed people and get into a whole list on that.

Some have said, they are okay with mixed people but not black people. I guess what I am saying is, when you are biracial, you are sometimes the exception to the rule, and other times, you are apart of the rule and not the exception.

Sometimes when I read blogs or articles pertaining to black people, I ask myself that question, am I included or not? I ask it not only as a biracial girl, but a "light skinned black girl", as there seems to be a rift in the community over who has it easier or better....

What I am trying to say is that, when can I or can't I relate to something? Its a revolving feeling. I can relate, yet I am not supposed to. Sometimes, I am supposed to relate, but am unable to. Some people want you to relate, and others do not want you to relate.

It can be a confusing feeling...most people think the confusion biracial people go through is "picking sides", or not being accepted by either or both sides....but for most people, that gets resolved, but the confusion that probably never goes away, is the question of Can I or am I supposed to relate?

Is it that hard to respect it?

I was surfing the web, and came across yet ANOTHER news article about Obama and his self identification...I was not intentionally looking for it, it just kind of popped up when I was looking for something else...and well, curiosity as usual, killed the cat, and I looked.

There is one thing about biracial people that annoy me, and that is the lack of disrespect of other's self identification, and the need to rely on celebrities and politicians.

We should already expect and not be too surprised when people think we are black (or white, or whatever, depending on what you look like), and then treat you as such (we all know America will treat you however they want mostly based on your race). I have heard of accounts from other biracial people where some get mistaken for Mexican, Indian or Arabian, and they had to deal with racial issues from that situation. One biracial guy once said, its hell at the airport because he gets mistaken for a middle easterner, and America is still weary about that whole airplane situation (I am more scared of the plane crashing in an accident than I am of a terrorist attack on a plane again).

So because we should expect others not to know our race, we can therefore assume even after they know our race, they won't understand the dynamics of it.

But what irks me, is when biracial people get upset at how other biracial people self identify. I have seen some that prefer to say they are white, and others black, one guy decided he would bleach himself, and get with a white woman to "rid himself of any blackness". A different guy decided he would fully reject his white side, even his white mother.

I have already talked about the difference between self hate and self identity. Its obvious those two self hate, but there are some that do prefer to choose "white" or "black", and honestly to me, they have their reasons, and who am I to say that is wrong? Sometimes I say I am biracial, other times I will say I am black. I do not feel that close to my black side (my dad nor his family were in my life), but when it comes to racial matters, sometimes I feel as though I can identify with them (although not always).

But in articles (such as the most recent one), alot of biracial people want to force the "biracial" label onto Obama. I once said to my mom, biracial people can be the most least understanding of one another...and self identity is the very reason why.

Obama was born in the 1960s, a much different time period than 2009. My mom was in 7th grade when her school was desegregating...and that too was in the 1960s...

But I have noticed in some biracial people a strong desire to want Obama and even Halle Berry to identify strictly as biracial and not black.

One guy once said he finds it wrong for biracial people to identify as black, and says its demeaning, YET, he applauded this one biracial girl when she said she self identifies as white, and hates her black side, because of her father...

Pending on how you were raised, the need for biracial role models could be strong or weak. For me, I never really needed to have someone biracial, seeing a black person, regardless of shade, was satisfactory for me.

My mom bought me a few black barbies along with my majority white barbies. I loved the last black barbie I owned, before I gave up barbies. Oddly enough though, majority of my baby dolls were black, and few were white.

I find there is a great dependency biracial people have on politicians and celebrities. As if they expect them to use their "powers" to bring the problem to light. If black people had to fight as long as they did to get rights, and are still having to fight the battle...I can tell you now, trying to get a celebrity to identify how you want them to, won't do anything.

The biracial battle is not everyone's battle. Some people have bigger worries. And some people don't want to identify as biracial. Just as much as you want to be seen as biracial, someone else may not. Self identity is based on your life, and experiences.

Role models can be a bad thing, looking up to someone can turn into idolizing, and almost always ends badly, because the person puts them too high on the pedestal. Maybe the problem lies in the fact that, we seem to need biracial role models, when we do not. Maybe all this time one is looking at it the wrong way.

Why not have role models that each represent parts of your race?

Maybe the problem is, biracial people want to have a unity of their own the same way blacks have one and whites have one, but why not just be the group that breaks down that unity for an even bigger one?

I am not saying mixing will end hate and racism, it won't, racism will just merely become about what you are mixed with, and the shade you are within your own mix. But what I am saying is, maybe biracial people are going about the whole thing the wrong way.

I guess what I am saying is, we have to respect each biracial person's choice in self identity. We have to realize, that we are different in some ways from mono-racial people, yet we are similar too. Right now, biracial people are too dependent on celebrities and politicians to do things for them, many not even taking the initiative themselves. You cannot rely on celebrities to do it for you, in fact I doubt some of them even care.

I do this blog to relate to race and biracial people. But by no means is it the center of my life. Does it have a bearing on who I am in life? yes, but is it the only thing in my life? no.

If biracials can be black, can blacks be biracial??

I did a post on indirect mixing and direct mixing. I was looking at a blog at Wordpress, called Abagond.

The problem with this blog is that many of its readers seem to be misinformed when it comes to biracial people. The author seems to get the realities of racism spot on, but whenever he does a blog about biracial people, for the most part, he is off, and his readers are even more uneducated about the topic.

Many things, especially the black readers, will say about biracials, is that they "miscegenation has always been around, we are all mixed".

This line is usually used either to discredit the existence of biracials or to somehow make a black person feel better or more special about being black.

This line though is highly inaccurate. What does mixing from 100 years ago have to do with today? If both of your parents are visibly black, then how does that relate to having one parent being white?

Biracials who are strictly raised by their white side only (with no black influence from family), often feel less black, simply because they were deprived of their black culture.

Some ask, if a biracial person can be black, then couldn't a black person be biracial?

No. The answer is no. Biracial people are treated like black people in society, as of right now, mulatto is not an official race. As of right now, biracial is merely a title. But when you are the product of an interracial relationship, you have the choice to self identify with one of your races.

But when you are the product of a mono-racial relationship, you are not able to self identify because you are not directly of multiple races to do so.

I get insulted when I hear black people act as if being biracial is the same thing as being black. Biracials do have a black experience, as they are considered black in society...but being biracial also has an experience of its own.

As I mentioned about having only white members of the family in one's life...that will bring about a different outlook than someone who has either both their parents, or only their black side or being born black in general.

In the end, when I hear people act as if black is the same as biracial, I can't help but wonder...are they this ashamed of being black, that pretending they are biracial will make them happier? Or are they this hateful and fearful of biracials one day having a race of their own, that they will do or say anything to prevent that?

Diverse?

This doesn't so much have to do with being biracial, but more of a racial thing as a whole.

If you look at college campus websites they often boast about being "diverse". I walk around my college campus, and very rarely I will see a white person and a black person speak to each other as if they were actually friends.

I see mostly white, black, and asian. I do see some Indian and Mexican, but not as much. But it seems like everyone sticks with their own.

I have been observing in my history class something weird. I notice quite often when a white person walks in, they often head to the back of the lecture hall, and will sit over there even if its cramped, simply because mostly whites sit there. They often seem more hesitant about sitting with blacks. Even if the area a black person is sitting at has a lot of space, most whites prefer to sit in the more cramped white area in the back. Black people on the other hand, usually do not care where they sit, as long as they get a seat, they will sit by whites, even if the white person doesn't want them there.

My city is one of those cities that is very self segregated and racist. So its really no surprise.

I do not really fit in anywhere at my school. I just do my own thing by myself. Most people in this school came in with "prepackaged" friendships, meaning they brought along their high school friendships and etc and have no care to make new friends.

But its weird, my school boasts being the most diverse campus in the state, yet oddly enough, there is little to no diversity.

It seems like colleges have a different idea of what is "diverse". We all know colleges will say anything to get students. They will boast about some achievement from a decade ago, if they know it will make them look better. And colleges also have the tendency to leave things out, and of course they will say its not their fault, and will say, its yours for assuming something in the first place.

So naturally a college campus will boast about diversity, especially when even though the campus is mostly white, there is a good number of blacks, asians and other groups there too. Colleges stick with the general idea of diversity. When you hear "diverse", you think different cultures and races in one place. But what "diverse" really means is you see different races and/or cultures intermingling with each other.

Its sad to say that my high school was more diverse than this college and whats even sadder, is the fact that this college probably is the most "diverse" of all the colleges in this state.

Do you believe we are black first, biracial second?

There was an article about Obama and how he self identifies as a black man. Many white people refused to respect Obama's wishes. There was a comment that really made a great point.

The author of the comment, talked about how, calling Obama biracial, actually takes him down a peg. She stated that up until Obama, you were black, no one cared to call you biracial. She then proceeded to mention that people are only calling Obama biracial for two reasons, 1. is to throw political correctness in his face, as a way of getting revenge on the whole PC thing. and 2. because it makes many white people feel better about a black man being in office. She then stated that, if Obama is unsuccessful, he will be seen by blacks as biracial, and whites will see him as black. The author of the comment then said something that sounded very good. She stated that biracial people are "black first, and biracial second". She stated, one only becomes biracial to others when those people see fit.

The comment made perfect sense to me. To society, I am black. Biracial, is only considered a personal title in the US, right now. There are some people, who know I am biracial, and see me as biracial. But to most, I am black. When people meet me, they FIRST assume I am black, and after finding out I am biracial, will sometimes SECONDLY say I am biracial.

But essentially most people, even after finding out that I am biracial, treat me like a black person.

I think about history. There were some successful biracial people. They too were black first. And it makes sense you know? Because, being biracial really meant nothing to society, when the black race couldn't even get equal rights.

But I have seen the whole "biracial when one sees fit" all to much. Its one thing for the biracial person to interchange between black and biracial...but its pretty annoying when people in society see you as black one minute, then you do good, and now you are biracial.

I think that is the reason Obama said he identifies as black, because he felt it was wrong how people want to attribute good to "biracial", because that somehow means being half white "saved" him....that and he also probably identified as black for the political advantages (which I seriously don't blame him for doing, I mean, one should take advantage of their opportunities, and in this case, their race).

But, even though I am biracial, I am also black. The society we live in, treats you based on race...some individuals may treat you based on your title, and not your race...but very few.

I just feel its a major insult to assume that somehow being half white saves you. I get insulted by the word nigger just like I do by the word mongrel. A boy once told me, that I am okay because I am half white. I hope to God he was joking when he said that. But one of his good friends, happened to be a racist who hates black people.

You can't help but wonder if some biracial people, simply state they are black, not because of some connection they feel with their black side, but because they are making a statement, that being biracial does not somehow make you better than black people.

We are still a society that likes to claim one someone else's achievements. How many times have you heard the white person who listed all the achievements made by white people, and act as if he had something to do with it?

In the end, we are not just black first because of how we are seen in society to people who do not know we are mixed, but because we are fighting the same battles as black people, and the only way biracial people can get their rights as their own race, is by first getting rights for blacks in general. Will blacks care for our cause later on? No. But do we benefit from helping their cause? Yes, simply because we are just as affected as they are.

Obama-baby???

Ugh, I hate seeing words like "Obamanation", and words like "post-racial society". They both sound idiotic. I just recently came across the word "Obama-baby". Seeing that took me back to a conversation I was having with a black woman once. She asked who I voted for, and I said "independent". 2008, was my first election. I honestly did not know who to vote for...and I remember how I started to understand why my mom has never voted and doesn't care to ever vote either. I decided to go with an independent, simply because I was too scared with the question "What if the person I voted for, turns out to be very horrible??" I remember, it was a tough choice between Obama and McCain for me, I truly despise Sarah Palin, and was almost going to vote Republican (something not in my nature to do), until Palin was announced, her behavior was sickening to me. Anyways, after telling her my story, she was surprised I did not vote for Obama.

Next thing I know, I am being called an "Obama-baby", an obvious reference to the fact that Obama is biracial (or as he sometimes puts it, "black with a white mom").

I have been put off by all the nicknames, and abbreviations, I have found people using during the 2008 election and Obama's presidency. People complain about teens speaking/typing in IM, yet these same adults turn around and talk in abbreviations themselves....

But I really do not like the term "obama-baby". At the time I was called that, I just stared and gave a nervous laugh, im not a confrontational person, but I was definiately uncomfortable. And as I see the word again, I am once again disgusted.

For starters, I hate the term, as I was born BEFORE his election. And on top of that, I just don't like the idea of the President's name being inserted into some word, and then directed at me. I just do not like the hype. Am I biracial? Yes. Did Obama have anything to do with it? NO!

I am so tired of all these "political words". I am tired of hearing all the paranoia, conservatives and liberals have to offer. In fact, I hate politics in general. I have no problem admitting that politics is not the most important thing in my life (seriously, people get offended when you dare say there are more important things in your life than politics).

Race and IQ?

I never understood how some people can actually believe how smart you are is based on your race. Worse, I can't believe people actually fund scientists to "prove" this. It has always been obvious to me, and probably many others, that the biggest contributing factors to why blacks score lower than race, has to do with environment, and parenting.

I was looking at various websites trying to find out about IQ. In some cases, they lumped biracial people with their more dominant gene. In this case, biracial people were lumped with blacks. In other cases, they kept mixed race separate. Apparently one experiment ended up showing that biracial people who were raised by white moms, performed better than blacks and even whites. This was in the 1970s though. Since then, its been said, that biracial people do better than blacks, yet not as good compared to whites.

I have never taken an IQ test before. I was about to once, and was about 2 questions in it, when I realized, that I truly do not care to know my IQ.

I am one of those people who is against standardized testing. I hate the SAT, ACT, the high school standardized testings they make students take each year.

These tests are not neutral. Everyone's level of education is different. Every school is different. How can one take a test that does not take in account, for what they have and have not learned?

I have always felt a person's GPA said more about them than a stupid test score.

But I can't help but wonder, do people only do theses researches, to establish some kind of racial superiority?

Can any good come of it?

We all know the stereotype people that "black people are dumb". An experiment was once done on the subject of Stereotype threat. Blacks did better when they knew they were not being measured, compared to the ones that knew they were. It was explained that black people do worse, because of their fear of the stereotype.

But the only good that could possibly come from these racial IQ testings, is trying to find a way to fight it.

I truly believe smarts does not come from genetics, but from your environment. I am not going to go into a list of what I find wrong with the black community, and society itself, that could cause such a racial gap in IQ.

But, once you know the problem, accept that its a problem, and find a solution for yourself, you can then combat the problem itself.

Which one is it?

So I was bored and decided to go over to Youtube. Somehow I went from listening to Alicia Keys to watching a video where a black dude kept saying over and over that biracial people are black.

He was talking about how biracial people often do not want to be associated with their black side. He stated that, biracials are messed up for relating to their white side. Proclaiming that, biracials use it as an excuse to not embrace being black.

Normally I would shrug this kind of video off, as just some disgruntled dude, needing to vent, considering his video was mostly a response to some hater comments by a biracial person. But I could not help but pay attention to this video, not just because of some of the inaccuracies and accuracies he mentioned, but because I had seen another one of his videos months earlier in which he stated biracial people are NOT black.

But there are just so many things wrong with his video(s), yet some things that are correct.

He was correct in the fact that, we as biracials, should not act as if we are better than blacks. One thing he was correct about was the fact that to white people we are just as black. Just last night, when I was talking about my family and politics, a girl told me that its uncommon for black people to vote Republican (I am not Republican, but my family is). I then had to tell her that I am biracial, and my mom and her family, are white.

That is why I stated in a different post, "biracial" is pretty much a title right now.

But one thing that irked me the most in his vlog was that he said that acting white meant we were trying to appease to white people and deny our blackness.

I was raised in white culture, i like things made by whites and blacks. I hate hip hop and rap, but I love R&B, Disco, Funk, etc. I love pop, rock, classical, new age, but i despise country and heavy metal.

The man who does these videos has the tendency to rag on light skinned blacks and biracials.

What probably annoyed me the most was the uneducated and hateful comments, more than the video itself.

I noticed a conundrum in the comments. Often biracial people are told they are not "black enough". One person in the comments stated exactly what was on my mind.

When a biracial person self identifies as black, they are questioned for being black enough. Yet, when they identify as biracial, they are questioned for possibly denouncing being half black.

So like someone said, about the video maker's contradicting videos, Which one is it???